Mindfulness: A way to calm our mind, relax our body

Mindfulness gives kids a tool for understanding how their brain works, for having better self-control,

Handwork: A way to understand our ability.

A motor skill is a learned sequence of movements that combine to produce a smooth, efficient action in order to master a particular task.

Concentration through Craft work

Crafting is both fun to make and fun to play, at the same time, it helps the younger one to concentrate.

Teamwork: Learn to share and work together.

Functionality of a good culture family and society comes from teamwork.

Drawing is a way of self-understanding

Drawing for kids is an important time to enhance their mind and artistic skills, it shows the way of thinking pattern of a person.

Work with your hand

How flexible is your hand means how flexible is your brain, as your brain control your hands.

Fun work with clay

Working with clay is fun, because a child has to learn how to press, to work the clay into round, square, tear drop or peanut shape.

Concentration: training needed for all age.

When a child being able to be comfortable with silence, they have the ability to concentrate.

Kids Holiday Craft

School holiday is coming and you need to plan holiday activities for your kids.  How about crafting? Crafting is not only fun but it brings lots of benefits in kids development such as fine motor skill and creativity.  

Children love making things, and even if more often than not, they create a mess as well, you’ve got to give them kudos for being the creative little spirits that they are.

Any form of creativity is a healthy and relaxing outlet.

Craft making also involves working with one’s hands, which builds dexterity and motor function. Plus, crafts are just plain fun. Kids love getting involved in fun projects that engage their mind and hands. Crafts are also a great way to keep kids occupied. These are just a few of the reasons why kids and crafts go together so very well. Projects will subtly teach kids how to follow instructions, and children will soon learn that following instructions can be both fun and rewarding.

Let’s take a look at some benefits of crafting for kids.

1. Crafting builds creativity.

Creativity engages a number of mental processes, such as problem solving, idea generation, and comprehension. Making something from raw material also comes with considerable personal rewards and a sense of accomplishment.
Developing minds need a creative outlet, and crafting provides the opportunity for kids to use their imaginations. It helps them learn to solve problems, and it could lay the groundwork for a lifetime of interest in art.

Creative actions serve to increase self-awareness and promote self-acknowledgement. Kids who engage in craft making will hone their creative skills and learn how to be productive.

 2.  Crafting teaches kids to follow directions.

This seems like a very basic skill, but we all know adults who can’t seem to follow directions. When kids craft, they learn the consequences of not following directions when their projects do not turn out as expected. This instills in them the importance of doing things the right way the first time.

3.  For young kids, crafting is fabulous for learning basic skills. 

One of the most important developmental phases for children is that time when they begin to master basic motor skills and eye-hand coordination. Learning to use fingers and hands deftly is an ongoing process which can be helped along through a variety of activities, including crafting. Using pens and pencils, scissors, glue, and a variety of other craft tools and supplies is a great way to encourage dexterity.
4.  Crafting is a great way to wind down.
It’s wonderful for kids to be active, but there are times when they need to calm down. If you find your child getting agitated or exhibiting an overabundance of energy near bedtime, try bringing out the craft supplies. Crafting engages kids’ minds, giving them something to focus on and a good reason to sit still for a while.

5.  Create things is boosting confidence. 

Parents who craft regularly know the feeling of accomplishment when a project is complete. Multiply this feeling by ten, and you have a pretty good idea of how your child feels when he makes something. For kids, crafting can help build positive self-esteem.

6. Having Fun
Crafts are fun and instructional for children. Sure, they can be a lot of work for the adult who needs to set up, supervise and assist; but the idea is to do something enjoyable together, and allow the child the pride of creation and sense of mastery to be able to say, "Look, I made this myself!"

Having fun is a cornerstone of childhood, and its value should never be discounted when coming up with interesting activities for children to explore.

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Why the learning experience is greater than end results

A friend of mine struggled with tests as a child.  Any time an assessment was coming up, his mind would go blank and he’d panic.  The pressure of passing weighed down on him to such an extent that no manner of revision or study took him any further.

A couple of days before another test, the worry became too much and he asked his Dad for help.  His Dad, is a school teacher.

Dad said, “You don’t need to worry about tests if you always try your best.  There’s more to life than getting full marks.”

The father went on to say that an interest in learning is far more important than focusing on a test result.  If you can honestly tell yourself that you worked with a view toward learning and discovery, the results should follow.  Get 0% or 100%, the mark doesn’t matter if you work hard in the process.  The results will come naturally.

My friend continued his preparation for the test.  This time, the learning was more fun.  He felt less stress and more connection with the learning materials.

On the day of the next test, he turned up at school with a totally different perspective.  There was a sense of peace. Terror didn’t pin him down.  Despite feeling nervous, he was confident.

And (surprise, surprise) he passed without difficulty and with high marks.  This success came about from one small change of focus.  Instead of concentrating on the end result, the focus was on the learning experience as a whole.

My friend has taken his Dad’s advice with him ever since and loved his time at university, while getting solid grades along the way.  He teaches other children now and I hope he’s able to pass on what he discovered to his pupils.

Unfortunately, schools are under so much pressure that many teachers are used to talking at their pupils rather than engaging in active conversation.  This doesn’t allow students to “perform at their optimum”.  At a time when pupils should be encouraged the way my friend was, they’re in real danger of being let down.

An Institute of Education (IoE) study on learning recently found that the advice my friend was given is effective in helping students achieve much better grades than those who are focused on results:

“In one study, some teachers were told to help pupils learn while others were told to concentrate on ensuring that their pupils performed well. The students under pressure to perform well obtained lower grades than those who were encouraged to learn.

“Another study showed that when teachers focused on their students’ learning, the students became more analytical than when the teachers concentrated on their pupils’ exam results.

“A further study, of 4,203 students, showed classroom behaviour improved when teachers focused on learning rather than grades.”

At university, you are far more responsible for your own learning.  Luckily, that means you don’t have quite the same pressures with teachers focusing on your grades in the same way.  However, you need to make decisions over what you’re going to focus on.

So what will it be?  Focus on the result, or focus on the learning?  A focus on the learning allows the end result to develop favourably, whereas a focus on the result clouds the process.

Chris Watkins, the author of the IoE report says, “passing tests is not the goal of education, but a by-product of effective learning”.

Perhaps it’s time to give learning a fresh approach.  Involve yourself in the research.  Get interested in the material on offer and actively seek out more information.

post adapted from the university blog

The Boy Who Always Won

There was once a boy who liked nothing more in the world than to win. He loved winning at whatever it may be: football, cards, video games... everything. And because he couldn't stand losing, he had become an expert in all kinds of tricks and cheating. He could play tricks in practically every situation, without being noticed; even in video games or playing alone. He could win without ever being caught.

He won so many times that everyone saw him as the champion. It meant that almost no one wanted to play with him, he was just too far ahead of everyone. One person who did play with him was a poor boy, who was a bit younger. The champion really enjoyed himself at the poor boy's expense, always making the boy look ridiculous.

But the champion ended up getting bored with all this. He needed something more, so he decided to apply for the national video games championship, where he would find some competitors worthy of himself. At the championship he was keen to show his skills but, when he tried using all those tricks and cheats he knew from a thousand different games, well... none of them worked. The competition judges had prevented any of the tricks from working.

He felt terribly embarrassed: he was a good player, but without his cheats, he couldn't beat a single competitor. He was soon eliminated, and sat there, sad and pensive. Finally, they announced the name of the tournament champion. It was the poor boy from home. The one he had always beaten!

Our boy realised that the poor boy had been much cleverer than himself. It hadn't mattered to the poor boy if he lost and got a good beating, because what he was really doing was learning from each of his defeats. And from so much learning he had been transformed into a real master.

From then on, the boy who had loved winning gave up wanting to win all the time. He was quite happy to lose sometimes, because that was when he would learn how to win on the really important occasions.

author: Pedro Pablo Sacristán

Early Morning Mindfulness

Early morning mindful can be carried out over breakfast.

Eat your breakfast consciously, and mindfully. 

You might think that’s easy and that you do it all the time, but do you really?

Like everyone, you’re maybe at your desk, catching up on emails, reading the paper, talking to your partner or kids. You may not even taste what you’re putting in your mouth.

Eating mindfully, with your mind totally on every mouthful, is an art. It needs practice.

① Try to focus entirely on your meal. Chewed, tasted, and swallowed.
② Feel your feet connecting with the earth through my floor.
③ Looked into the bowl, and be thankful that every element in your breakfast had a connection to the Earth. they are grown in the Earth, watered by rain, ripened by sun.
④ Express our gratitude to the farmers who have toiled to harvest it, and the workers who have toiled to pack and deliver it to our local store.

Be thankful always ....

True, Good, Useful .......

Last two weeks my schedule was tightly packed up with activities, and dealing with different kind of people at various age group.

Finally, I have time for myself and I reviewed what have been through, I found out that thinking requires time, to digest what you have learned required time too.

What kind of time your required?  Time to be alone.

In ancient Greece (469 - 399 BC) Socrates was widely lauded for his wisdom. One day the great philosopher came upon an acquaintance who ran up to him excitedly and said

"Socrates, do you know what I just heard about one of your students?"

"Wait a moment," Socrates replied. "Before you tell me I'd like you to pass a little test. It's called the Triple Filter Test."

"Triple filter?"

"That's right," Socrates continued. "Before you talk to me about my student let's take a moment to filter what you're going to say. The first filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?"

"No," the man said, "actually I just heard about it and..."

"All right," said Socrates. "So you don't really know if it's true or not. Now let's try the second filter, the filter of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my student something good?"

"No, on the contrary..."

"So," Socrates continued, "you want to tell me something bad about him, even though you're not certain it's true?"

The man shrugged, a little embarrassed.

Socrates continued. "You may still pass the test though, because there is a third filter - the filter of Usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my student going to be useful to me?"

"No, not really"

"Well," concluded Socrates, "if what you want to tell me is neither true nor Good nor even useful, why tell it to me at all?"

The man was defeated and ashamed.

Socrates taught us to be true, to be good and deliver the useful message. 

For a person to learn the art of mindful communication, just ask yourself before you respond: Is it true, is it kind, and is it necessary?


A LITTLE boy one day ran indoors from school and called out eagerly: "Oh, mother, what do you think of Tom Jones? I have just heard that ----"

"Wait a minute, my boy. Have you put what you have heard through the three sieves before you tell it to me?"

"Sieves, mother! What do you mean?"

"Well, the first sieve is called Truth. Is it true?"

"Well, I don't really know, but Bob Brown said that Charlie told him that Tom ----"

"That's very roundabout. What about the second sieve -- Kindness. Is it kind?"

"Kind! No, I can't say it is kind."

"Now the third sieve -- Necessity. Will it go through that? Must you tell this tale?"

"No, mother, I need not repeat it."

"Well, then, my boy, if it is not necessary, not kind, and perhaps not true, let the story die."

Thanks for being with me. Wishing you "Good Day" ~ Aimee

Parenting Tips 4

Let Your Child Make Safe Mistakes and Experience Some Failure

Sometimes we protect our children from failure because we don’t want them to be hurt or disappointed, but failure is a wonderful teacher for those brave enough to take the lesson.

If your child wants to try out an idea that is doomed to failure, don’t stop your child. Let your child create
the raft that will sink, or the plane that won’t fly. Discovering that it doesn’t work is worth far more than a lecture — it’s a lasting life lesson. As long as the mistake puts no one in harm’s way, let your child learn some lessons from the best teacher, the school of real life.

Advice from Aimee Tay

Watch your child—what interests your child?
Listen—really listen—to your child’s ideas.

Thank you for visiting our website and we at Purity Learning hope that tips published can help parents and at the same time guiding children to a better learning pattern.

Source: Parents Count. Better Kid Care, Pennsylvania State Cooperative Extension, March, 2005. 

Parenting Tips 3

Encourage Your Child’s Thinking

★ Restrict viewing of TV or videos and time spent at a computer or playing video games.
Children learn best by doing. The American Academy of Pediatrics is recommending no conversation helps children learn words and can be the most important way to prepare your children for school.

★ Give your children time for play. 
With our busy schedules it can be hard to find time to just relax at home, but make sure your child has time regularly for satisfying play time.

★ Read, read, and read some more to your child.
The wonderful world of books will open up to your child with daily reading. Pick stories about things that are interesting to your child.

★ Explore your child’s interests. 
If you have a child who is interested in trucks, visit a construction site, read books about trucks, talk and wonder about trucks together, and play trucks. All of this helps children learn many things about the world while developing their unique talents and abilities.

★ Ask your child questions such as “What do you think?” or say “Tell me about it,” and really listen to the answers. 
These kinds of open-ended questions have no right or wrong answer and build great conversation. The
answers will also help you understand what your child does and doesn’t know.

★ Treat problems as opportunities. 
You lost some pieces of a game? Make up a new game. You don’t have tape—what else could you use?
This makes your children resourceful and good at coming up with fresh ideas.

Source: Parents Count. Better Kid Care, Pennsylvania State Cooperative Extension, March, 2005. 

Parenting Tips 2

Help Learn Problem Solving

All kids squabble from time to time. Instead of struggling to play judge and jury, try something new. Make your children responsible for finding a way to work it out. You will have to supervise to make sure that older children don’t take advantage of younger children, but even children as young as three can learn how to solve problems with a brother or sister.

If they are arguing over a toy, put the toy out of sight and say, “You can have the toy when you have figured out a plan to play with it that you both agree to.” Most often both of the children want the toy enough that they are willing to work together to get it back. Even young children will work out plans: “She’ll play with it for five minutes and then I’ll play with it for five minutes.” As long as they both agree to the plan, you can give the toy back. If children agree to taking turns, you might offer them a kitchen timer to help. This is a simple trick that really helps them succeed. Sometimes they enjoy using the timer as much as the toy!

Sometimes one child doesn’t want it enough to work out a plan and walks away or refuses to talk. If this
happens, give the toy to the child who was willing to try to work it out. Say, “Since she doesn’t want it
enough to talk about it you can use it now.”

For reluctant problem solvers you can set a timer. “If you won’t work out the problem in five minutes then I’ll decide for you.” It is always best to make the solution in favor of the child who was willing to work out the problem and less favorable for the child who did not put in real effort to work out the problem. This is a great consequence for not problem solving—kids learn that it is better to work with others than to refuse to try to work things out.

Source: Parents Count. Better Kid Care, Pennsylvania State Cooperative Extension, March, 2005. 

Parenting Tips 1

Does Your Child Drive You Crazy with “Why” Questions?

You don’t want to discourage your child's curiosity, but you can come to really dread hearing “Why?” over and over again. One of the best ways to handle the dreaded why questions is to ask a question back. “What do you think?” Your child’s ideas may surprise you, and will often help you understand what your child really knows.

Then you can use what your child says as a way to start talking about the topic. Often you discover that what your child wants to talk about is not what was asked about, so take your time to listen before you answer a question—it may not be the real question at all.

Source: Parents Count. Better Kid Care, Pennsylvania State Cooperative Extension, March, 2005.

Brain Development

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Brain power,
brain scientist,
brain food....

many of these terms are commonly used, but do you really know the facts about that mass of electronic power on your shoulders?

Brain research is unraveling many of the mysteries of the brain

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The smell of a flower - The memory of a walk in the park - The pain of stepping on a nail. These experiences are made possible by the 3 pounds of tissue in our heads...the BRAIN!!

What is the Brain

The brain weighs about 1360 grams (3 pounds), looks like a gray, unshelled walnut, and is the most complex structure in our world? The brain is the body’s most vital organ.

How does the brain work?

Life shapes the brain’s development.

Warm touches and caregivers who talk positively to the infant allow the brain to take in all things around them. On the other hand, severe stress that goes on for many months or years in early childhood can actually affect the development
of a child’s brain.

The brain is just waiting to send out signals to other parts to connect the wiring to form what kind of person the infant will become. These connections between cells are called synapses. A connection (synapse) is made depending on the stimuli or signals the brain gets from the setting.

The brain defines who we are, and it is influenced by what we do. With proper stimulation, the synapses become stronger. Electrical chemicals are sent out that make the connections stronger and more permanent.

How parents and caregivers can nurture positive brain development

Give consistent loving care.
If a child is raised in a loving setting, they will learn to love. Children who are ignored or not nurtured will not fully develop all areas of their brains.

Touch infants.
In research with infants, it was shown that gently massaging premature infants three times per day for 15 minutes helped them gain weight, be more alert, and cry less. These infants were released from the hospital sooner than infants who were not massaged. Addition ally, low lights, skin-to-skin holding, and being near the mother’s heart can improve growth and save medical costs for premature infants.

Pay attention to hearing and language.
Repetition forms connections. Talk to the baby so that he or she will begin babbling. Name what you are doing, name items, point and show expression on your face.

Lots of ear infections can slow down language development because babies cannot hear words repeated to them.

It is easier for children to learn two languages than it is for adults. For example, children whose parents speak Spanish and English create two maps and strengthen their use of both languages when both these areas of the brain are used in childhood.

Watch babies notice the world at 2 to 4 months.
Watch the health of the eyes to assure babies are taking in the colors, faces, and shapes around them. Each neuron is attaching to 15,000 other neurons during the first months. The development of vision peaks at 8 months. In research with infants, it was found that if cataracts were not removed by age 2, children were unable to see since the vision centers were not used and did not develop.

Look for teachable moments.
Every day offers windows of learning for children. When you are dressing your child, name items, colors, and count. When you are fixing dinner, let toddlers play with plastic dishes. When you can, name things that are the same, different, bigger, smaller, hot, cold. When you drive in the car, point out things like trees, cars, big trucks, and stop signs.

Use music because it relates to math skills.
By exposing children to complex musical sounds (Mozart, not hard rock), children will develop the same areas of the brain required
for math and spatial reasoning. Using mazes, copying patterns, and drawing shapes has been shown to improve with exposure to complex musical sounds.

Know that emotional connections can be stressful or relaxed.
Vivid memories are often tied to emotional reactions to particular situations. The more vivid the memory, the stronger the print in the brain. The limbic system regulates emo tional impulses and helps us make decisions about what to do... run, cry, react, whine, turn away. If the goal in childhood is survival and coping skills around survival are taught, this will become permanent. If trust is nur tured, then this will become part of the child’s nature. Neglect or trauma during childhood could cause learning and behavioral problems later on.

Be gently physical.
Children need to move their small (fingers and toes) and large (by running and jumping) body parts. Expose your child to a safe variety of physical activities as they grow. During the child’s preschool years, think of all areas — climbing, splashing, slow and fast movement, hard and soft areas, different textures like clay, and and paint.

Mirror behaviors you want in children.
Children will pick up many behaviors of the adults around them. If parents voices are loud, children may be loud; if parents use soft warm touches, children will learn the same. If children see patience in adults looking for solutions to problems, they will see that learning is a process with many steps.


The power of the brain is very interconnected.

In early years, children learn symbols to understand meanings. For example, outstretched arms may mean a toddler wants “up,” or hugs may be a symbol of love and security. But over time, these key elements found in the emotional centers of the brain begin to organize responses to things that happen. Over time, life experiences combine to form our understanding of abstract concepts, such as justice, pride, forgiveness, anger, and security. Adults play a critical role in the lives of children. Helping children organize their world takes time, patience, and warmth, but these efforts form the building blocks to positive, human interactions.

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The Island Of Inventions

The first time Luca heard talk of the Island Of Inventions, he was still very young, but the wonders he heard about sounded so incredible to him that they were forever engraved in his memory. Ever since he was a little boy, he never stopped searching for clues to investigate. Clues which might lead him to that place of wonder. He read hundreds of adventure books, histories, volumes of physics and chemistry; even music.

Taking a little from here, a little from there, he arrived at quite a clear idea of what the Island Of Inventions was really like. It was a secret place, where all the great wise men of the world would meet to learn and invent together. Access to the island was totally restricted. To be able to join that select club, you had to have created some great invention for humanity. Only then could you receive the unique and special invitation - which came with instructions on how to get to the island.

To be in with a chance, Luca spent the years of his youth studying and inventing. Every new idea he got, he made it into an invention, and if there were ever anything he didn't understand, he would seek out someone who could help him. Soon he met other young people, brilliant inventors too, and he told them of the secrets and marvels of the Island Of Inventions. These fellow young inventors would likewise dream of being sent 'the letter', which is how the invitation was referred to.

As time passed, the disappointment of not being sent the letter gave rise to even greater collaboration and mutual help between the young inventors. Their interesting individual inventions were put together, creating some incredible contraptions. They met in Luca's house, which ended up looking like a huge warehouse for machines and spare parts. Their inventions became known throughout the world, and managed to improve every aspect of life.

But even after all that, no invitation came.

They did not lose heart. They continued learning and inventing every day, trying to come up with more and better ideas. Fresh young talent was added to their group, as more and more inventors dreamed of getting to the island. One day, a long time later, Luca, already very old, was speaking with a brilliant young man who had written to him to try to join the group. Luca told the young man the great secret of the Island Of Inventions, and of how he was sure that some day they would receive an invitation. Surprised, the young inventor interrupted Luca:

"What? You mean this isn't really the Island of Inventions? Isn't the letter you sent me the real invitation?"

And, as old as he was, Luca looked around him, and realised that his dream had become true in his very own house. He realised that no island could exist which would be better than where he was now. No place of invention would be better than what he and his friends had created. Luca felt happy to know that he had always been on the island, and that his life of invention and study had been a truly happy one.

Author.. Pedro Pablo Sacristán

Routines to Improve Concentration in Children

For anybody, and particularly for children, routines are immensely important for success. I'm not saying they are fun or easy, but they are essential if concentration is the goal.

Now, everyone knows about how vital routines are for an infant: feedings, nap-time, diaper changes...I'm sure you had it down, right?

But it seems many parents start to neglect routines for their children over time. Sometimes it's a matter of having too few routines in place, or perhaps not enforcing the ones that you do have. Everyone is guilty of some or all of this.

In a classroom, a successful teacher will establish routines, not only to maintain order, but to facilitate the learning process. The less "surprises" a child has, the more they know what to expect. They know their boundaries. They gain independence. Furthermore, they are less distracted by transitions and more focused on what the teacher has to teach them. Thus, the children are better able to concentrate.

You probably have a laundry list of things you'd like your child to be able to concentrate on. To master concentration, they'll need to be able to have a strong will to do. They need the independence, desire, and ability to concentrate.

In order to help your child train their will to do, you need to set routines for them that you consistently enforce. Start these routines as soon as possible if you haven't already done so. Don't just give up and throw your hands in the air; reflect on the routines and figure out what worked and what didn't work. It's not a set in stone process, but rather maintaining routines should be a work-in-progress, constantly fine-tuning them to meet your child's needs.

An example of a routine is a bed time. Some people don't set bed times for their children because they think it's too mean or maybe too restrictive, or perhaps just a big 'ole pain in the rear to enforce every night (especially if you are a night person, and/or you like to sleep in). However, life is about routines. We wake up, go to work, come home, eat, sleep, and repeat the process all over again the next day.

Successful people have the self-discipline that keeps them focused throughout their day and they are able to do it with routines. Routines are not about being restrictive or rigid, but a tool to help an individual concentrate on what they have to do. In addition, routines are essential for time management, and we all know there aren't enough hours in a day.

Here's an exercise you can try at home:

Exercise: Routine Setting
Your assignment is to come up with routines for your child and to enforce them. Here are some examples:

bed time
time to wake up in the morning (you can buy them an alarm clock to promote their ownership over this routine)
time to eat breakfast
time reserved to do homework after school
time to play
time to read

Most likely your child will resist complying with the routines, especially if they aren't used to them. That's okay. Kids are going to test you and test rules, so you should actually expect that. Your job is to calmly never back down. Develop consequences for them and stick to it. For example, if they refuse to go to bed on time, the next day they have to go to bed five minutes earlier. Continue to do this until they learn to follow the bed time.

If you can master routines in your daily schedule, you're going to see that concentration will be easier to achieve than you previously thought.

Concentration and Children

Concentration involves the abilities to focus, screen out distractions, delay gratification, and regulate impulses and emotional responses.

When the mind is focused, our energy is not dissipated onto irrelevant thoughts, but focused, clear and direct. This skill is essential for success. Without it, our efforts are scattered.

Concentration assists us in study and understanding - improves our memory, and helps us focus on the task, activity or goal, so that we become more efficient. We can gain mastery over our worries and thoughts and therefore become more emotionally resilient.

In today's busy lifestyle, with the prospect an of organized activity to enhance every waking moment, children would appear to have every opportunity for developing increased concentration.

However, the opposite is often true. Instead of deeper concentration and attention spans, our children's minds leap in short, focused bursts from one activity to the next as parents listen to the common catch cry - this child needs more stimulation!

increase concentration Yes, stimulation is absolutely necessary, but so is calm, relaxed, un-pressured clear space to play, largely unobserved and unmeasured.

When children trust that they have plenty of time, they relax and let go into their free play, and completely exist in that moment of time. The past and future fall away as they concentrate in the relaxed free flow of the present.

Ever called to your children when they were absorbed in play and watched them pay no attention to you at all?

They often really do not hear you - all their concentration is going into their current focus, absorbed as they experience really being in the present moment.

This amount of relaxed concentration is what exponents of meditation often take many years and much practice to learn.

Help your children to retain and to develop this valuable skill.

2011 Angry Bird Creativity Clay Craft

Learning to be mindful is something interesting and relaxing.
Being mindful means being fun.

Being mindful means being joyous.

Being mindful means being creative.

Being mindful means being relax.

The Tree and the Vegetables

Once upon a time, there was a lovely vegetable patch, on which grew a very leafy tree. Both the patch and the tree gave the place a wonderful appearance, and were the pride and joy of the garden's owner. What no one knew was that the vegetables in the patch and the tree couldn't stand each other. The vegetables hated the tree's shadow, because it left them only just enough light to survive. The tree, on the other hand, resented the vegetables because they drank nearly all the water before it could get to him, leaving him with just enough to survive.

The situation became so extreme that the vegetables got totally fed up and decided to use up all the water in the ground so that the tree would dry up. The tree answered back by refusing to shade the vegetables from the hot midday sun, so they too began to dry up. Before long, the vegetables were really scrawny, and the tree's branches were drying up.

None of them suspected that the gardener, on seeing his vegetable patch deteriorating, would stop watering it. When he did that, both the tree and the vegetables really learned what thirst was. There seemed to be no solution, but one of the vegetables, a small courgette, understood what was going on, and decided to resolve it. Despite the little water available, and the unforgiving heat, the little courgette did all he could to grow, grow, grow...

He managed to grow so big that the gardener started watering the patch again. Now the gardener wanted to enter that beautiful big courgette in some gardening contest.

And so it was that the vegetables and the tree realized that it was better to help each other than to fight. They should really learn how to live in harmony with those around them, doing the best they could. So they decided to work together, using both the shade and the water in the best combination to grow good vegetables. Seeing how well they were doing, the gardener now gave the best of care to his vegetable patch, watering and fertilizing it better than any other patch for miles around.

Author.. Pedro Pablo Sacristán

How to improve childrens concentration

Here are some practical suggestions to help build concentration in children.

★ Time

Provide your children with the gift of time for relaxing, free play. Time is a concentration aid - when we become totally absorbed and lost within an activity our concentration is humming at 100%. Watch your children when they are immersed in an activity and you can clearly witness their concentrated, fully focused attention span. They need to know they have all the time in the world available to them so they can relax and let go into their imaginations.

★ Basic Physical Needs

Along with a well balanced diet and sound bedtime routines, children need plenty of exercise to release negative energy buildup and to provide increased energy through fitness. Fit and healthy children have higher rates of concentration.
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★ Silence

Encourage your children to be comfortable with silence. Explain that being able to sit still and find a place of inner stillness will help them to develop and increase concentration and enhance their attention span.

Give them something to concentrate on, a tree, flower, view, memory, photo or book and encourage them to enjoy the silence alongside you from an early age.

★ Posture and Breathing

Teach your children how to stand erect and tall, and to breathe correctly into their diaphragm. Shallow breathing prevents a good flow of oxygen into the bloodstream, while breathing well encourages a feeling of strength and well-being, producing confidence. Encourage your children into activities that promote good breathing such as singing, sport and exercise.

★ Encourage Reading

Continue to read aloud to your children regularly as well as encouraging them to read to you.

Promote reading as a bedtime wind down activity rather than having a television in your child's room. memory game concentration

★ Memory Game Concentration

Do you remember playing this game when you were younger - locating cards as you remembered which pairs matched?

How about memorizing the items on a tray and writing down as many as could be remembered? Our education system then also taught us how to remember poetry, tables, songs and maths rules. Rote learning was good for enhancing concentration skills.

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ADHD and Family: Chaos to Calm through Mindfulness

One truth of family life is that it is inherently uncertain. We feel everything is under control one moment and then things suddenly change around us. We make plans that don't work out exactly as we pictured. We imagine our future one way, and then life takes a different path. Sometimes we make assumptions ... and then make more assumptions based on little more than those tenuous beginnings.

As parents we also have countless habits, many of which we are not fully aware. We may make quick decisions and then unthinkingly stick with them - or maybe our habit is that we never stick with anything. We define ourselves or our children in some way (‘He never works hard'), and assume that can never change. Day-to-day, both the sense of uncertainty and the influence of our lifelong habits are amplified when we feel overwhelmed or stressed, as frequently is found when living with ADHD.

But as parents, we can change and make living with ADHD far less taxing. People who spent only eight weeks practicing mindfulness reported an increased sense of well-being and decreased stress, according to a recent Harvard study. This was no surprise, as similar results after mindfulness training have been shown many times.

This study found something even more extraordinary. The researchers documented measureable growth in the brains of participants, even though they had practiced mindfulness on average only twenty-seven minutes a day during the eight weeks. Areas of the brain involved in emotional self-regulation, memory, and learning actually increased in size. Not only did people feel better, but concrete neurological changes followed. These findings confirm the potentially life-changing benefits of even a short time spent training in mindfulness - something I have witnessed in many parents, with and without children who have ADHD, after completing a six-week class.

Getting in Touch with Mindfulness

So what is mindfulness, and how is it achievable? On one level, mindfulness means paying attention and experiencing life as we live it, right now, while maintaining an open and honest perspective about whatever we encounter. With mindfulness, we still have experiences we like and some we dislike, but maybe we don't wrestle quite as much with either. Mindfulness is a way of building cognitive abilities that benefit ourselves and those around us. Through it, we cultivate an ability to manage our lives with a greater sense of balance and less stress.

Meditation, which is often part of mindfulness training, is like weight lifting. Hit the gym regularly and moving furniture around the house becomes easier. During meditation, we strengthen our ability to notice when we're acting without reflecting a moment before taking action, or doing one thing while distractedly thinking about another.

Meditation is a part of most programs that teach mindfulness, though inherently it is not a spiritual practice. In this type of meditation the task is one of focused attention, nothing more. Our mind wanders, always, over and over again. That's what minds do - they make thoughts. While meditating we try to focus our attention on whatever we choose, such as the sensation of breathing. When it wanders (as it always will), we deliberately bring it back again instead of remaining in rumination, daydreams, or wherever else we've gone. This simple, immensely challenging act can affect how we live moment to moment. As a parent, I've found it a source of strength and perspective, and parents of children with ADHD report the same.

So Many Benefits

We spend so much of our day-to-day time on ‘autopilot.' We find ourselves playing a board game while we're really rehashing the argument we had trying to get ready for school. We're eating dinner as a family, but visualizing unsettling images of our child failing to ever get his act together in school and winding up who knows where. Or, we're consumed by a fear we've mishandled the latest outburst. Meanwhile, without full consciousness, we're reacting to things that are said or done at the table, correcting behaviors, and answering questions. Or maybe snapping in anger, or disappearing into ourselves, withdrawn and defensive.

Without effort, we become lost in fantasy and fears and planning and all sorts of random and not-so-random ideas and emotions. When we practice focusing our attention, in meditation and in our lives, we address this pattern. Right now, I'm going to give full attention to my children and not to planning what I'll say in tomorrow's meeting. While we'll still find ourselves becoming distracted at times, we may recover and return more easily. Children often notice the difference.

In the midst of a thousand distracting thoughts on a scattered day, focusing our attention back to real life is a radical step. Not every idea or fantasy or plan we encounter in our mind is worth validating with a response. Many of the ideas and sensations and emotions that come and go through the day seem permanent and unchangeable, yet they generally aren't. Fearing something bad will happen doesn't make it true.

When we pause and pay attention, we find some thoughts are worth our attention and others ... not so much. Thoughts arise and, with a sense of calm and discernment, we enjoy what there is to enjoy and more easily sort out the rest. And, then, since anything we experience repetitively rewires the brain (as shown in the Harvard study), this change in perspective becomes part of our underlying neurology.

We practice meditation because it influences how we act throughout the rest of the day. We find our mind wandering off over and over again, and then we guide it back without ripping ourselves for having "failed" at what is basically an impossible task. As in life, we cannot always get it right, and we give ourselves the benefit of the doubt for working at it in the first place. By training our ability to be attentive, we also may find ourselves more able to bring our full attention to our families, or reacting less reflexively when life makes us frustrated or angry, or discovering a new solution to an old problem.

Parenting can be a humbling experience. So much is uncertain and unpredictable. We plan and predict and try to have as much fun as possible with it all, but we cannot control everything. In the face of these facts, we can instead aim to teach children basic life skills, including the capacity to handle life's ups and downs with equanimity and wisdom. But, first, we need to cultivate these traits in ourselves.

Mindfulness training is a proven way to start. By practicing mindfulness meditation, we permit ourselves a few minutes a day to let our minds quiet. We strengthen our ability to notice when we're distracted and come back to reality. Every time we stop ourselves for a moment and reflect, we have the opportunity to choose where to place our next step. Lost in thought, we miss easier, lighter moments with our kids. Reacting without pause, we fall back on the same old habits, for better or worse. Taking a moment to pause and pay attention, we refocus ourselves on our daily life and on all the moment-to-moment choices we make every day.

Mindfulness: Getting Started

Here's a simple place to start bringing mindfulness into your life:

Three times a day for several weeks, pause and pay attention. Pick easy times to remember, such as when you are about to leave the house, or when the kids get on the bus, or before each meal. Or, practice taking a brief break when the day starts feeling overwhelming or tense.

Take a minute to focus on several breaths. Pay attention to the sensation of breathing, the physical movement of air passing through your nose or mouth, the rising and falling of your chest or belly, or whatever else is most apparent. Notice whatever you think and feel at that moment without, for one minute, doing anything more than observing: I am rushed and my feet hurt. I am quiet and at peace now, but worried about tonight. If you need, you can take care of something when you're done; right now, just give your mind a moment to settle. Count five or ten breaths, if you like. Then, gathering your resources, choose what you will do next.

A potentially life-altering parenting practice that benefits entire families.
Published on March 29, 2011 by Mark Bertin, M.D. in The Family ADHD Solution

How Kids Learn Gratitude

There are simple ways to cultivate your child's natural thankfulness.

Moments of thankfulness open our hearts to joy, fill us with peace, connect us to those around us. They help us feel blessed.

Recently, scientists have been taking a closer look at how positive emotions affect us. Barbara Fredrickson, for example, a psychology professor at the University of Michigan, has found that cultivating gratitude may actually undo the effects of negative emotions such as anger and anxiety.

Too often, though, when we try to teach our children thankfulness we go about it in surprisingly negative ways. We wait until moments when we're worried we have spoiled them for life. "You ought to be grateful for all the stuff you have," we tell them angrily after we have tripped over their toys for the 10th time.

Or we teach thankfulness as "reverse envy." I once heard a particularly grumpy Sunday school teacher lead a class in a prayer that was a classic of the genre. "Thank you, Jesus, for all the things we have," she said dourly, as her class of kindergartners bowed their heads, hands folded. "Because we know that there are so many other children who have no parents and no toys and no clothes and no nice house." The underlying idea here is that we ought to value our possessions because others don't have them--an approach more likely to inspire guilt than gratitude.

The reverse-envy approach was studied by researchers at Southern Methodist University and the University of California at Davis, using three groups of volunteers. One group kept a daily log of five hassles or complaints. The second group wrote down five ways in which they thought they were better off than their peers. And the third group wrote down five things each day for which they were grateful.

After three weeks, those in the group who kept gratitude lists reported having more energy, fewer health problems, and a greater feeling of well-being than those who complained or gloated.

What's the best way to help children experience the heart-expanding effects of gratitude?

Here are some simple ways to help children cultivate gratitude on a daily basis.

# Give thanks in prayer. Set aside a regular time for thank-you prayers, before dinner or breakfast, or at bedtime. Give thanks for small things--finding a colorful fall leaf on the driveway, getting over a cold, seeing the dog do a funny thing. Young children are naturally thankful, according to Montessori teacher Sofia Cavalletti. She writes in "The Religious Potential of the Child," "The prayer of children up to the age of seven or eight is almost exclusively prayer of thanksgiving and praise."

# Say thank you to your family. Research suggests that people are actually more likely to express their thanks to strangers or acquaintances than to their own family members or peers, according to the National Institute for Healthcare Research. But when parents show appreciation to one another, to their children, and to other people in their lives, children learn to do the same thing. When your child does a household chore--even if it's one of his or her assigned tasks--say thank you. When your partner does something considerate, express your appreciation.

# Slow down and smell the roses. Babies and toddlers are fascinated by sights and sounds and smells, from the color red to a ringing bell to cookies in the oven. The older we get, the more oblivious we become to the everyday sensory pleasures of the world we live in. When we pause to enjoy them, we regain the openness that is an essential part of gratitude. Make sure your child doesn't spend so much time with electronic entertainment that he or she misses out on the tactile joys of flowers, plants, crayons, paint, music, and dancing.

# Create a year-round thanksgiving spot. This is a home altar of sorts. Find a convenient but safe place--the refrigerator door, a bulletin board, or a small table or shelf. Make this a special spot for things you are thankful for--pictures of people you love, souvenirs and memorabilia, handmade treasures, and, of course, your child's artwork. Invite your child to add his or her own items, and set aside time now and then to admire the objects and pictures together.

# Teach your child to write thank-you notes. Even if kids write them on a computer, thank-you notes means more when they specifically mention the gift and say something appreciative about it. Writing thank-you notes to coaches, teachers, baby-sitters, neighbors, clergy, and other caring adults helps a child appreciate all the people who care about him or her (and it's a nice antidote to the complaints most adults hear).

# Keep a gratitude journal. One way to help your child develop thankfulness is to cultivate it in yourself. In a notebook, write down three to five things you're thankful for every day. Keep the focus small and specific--give thanks for a child's patience during a long wait, for a pan of brownies that turned out well, for a good joke someone told at lunch. You may wish to share the journal with your child.

BY: Jean G. Fitzpatrick

Why Mindfulness Matters

It’s been 30 years since Jon Kabat-Zinn launched his Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) program at the University of Massachusetts Medical Center. What began as a bit of a lark—an attempt by a molecular biologist to bring Buddhist meditation (minus the Buddhism) into the mainstream of medicine—has grown into a genuine social movement, with variations of the MBSR program developing everywhere from elementary schools to hospitals to the halls of Congress. At the same time, a growing body of research has documented the physical and psychological health benefits of practicing mindfulness, even for just a few weeks.

Still, the term “mindfulness” is likely to raise more than a few questions. For starters: What, exactly, is it?

“Simply put, mindfulness is moment-to-moment awareness,” writes Kabat-Zinn in his groundbreaking book Full Catastrophe Living. “It is cultivated by purposefully paying attention to things we ordinarily never give a moment’s thought to. It is a systematic approach to developing new kinds of control and wisdom in our lives.”

Kabat-Zinn has made it his life’s work to promote secular applications of mindfulness. And this month on Greater Good, we’re highlighting why that work is so important.

Throughout the month, we’ll be featuring stories by pioneers who have applied Kabat-Zinn’s MBSR program to different realms, from schools to prisons to childbirth and parenting education to the lives of Iraq war veterans. Each story is unique, but they all demonstrate the profound benefits that can come from cultivating mindfulness: reduced stress, heightened compassion and self-control, and a deeper engagement with the people in our lives. And they all make clear that these benefits can be made available to almost anyone with proper training.

This training can take different forms. Kabat-Zinn has stressed that although mindfulness can be cultivated through formal meditation, that’s not the only way.

“It’s not really about sitting in the full lotus, like pretending you’re a statue in a British museum,” he said in his presentation at a recent Greater Good Science Center event. “It’s about living your life as if it really mattered, moment by moment by moment by moment.”

Article from: http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/

What Is Mindfulness?

Mindfulness is awareness of the present moment. The present moment holds a potentially infinite number things going on both inside the mind and out. If you are mindful, any one aspect of experience does not overburden you.

There is a natural balance between thinking and doing. You are not completely lost in an activity, neither are you completely lost in thought. Whether you are eating a meal, playing a musical instrument or sitting alone by yourself, you are aware of what you are doing.

Your mind is not blinded by judgment, evaluation or any rigid way of thinking. Anything that passes before the attention is accepted and welcomed. You simply observe whatever is happening, without taking sides or forming attachments to any singular mindset. You are mindful when your mind is open to new thoughts, new ideas, new possibilities and new ways of thinking.

Why is mindfulness important? A state of mindfulness frees us from life’s entanglements. In day-to-day experience, the conscious mind is always struggling to keep up with an endless flow of changes in the external world. To make it’s job easier, the mind creates a series of generalizations and assumptions about our selves and the world so we don’t need as much thinking.

Although we need generalizations in order to make sense of the world, these assumptions also work to prevent us from seeing the truth of ourselves.

Are you ever in the habit of making identity statements about yourself? Do you ever say things like “I am X” or “I’m not Y” (where X and Y are qualities that you identify with – like confidence, outrageous, fear etc)?

The truth is that you are much more than any singular emotion. Even though you might think you’re this or you’re that kind of person, isn’t it true you’re capable of doing the exact opposite – or even doing something completely different?

We might say that mindfulness meditation is the process of becoming aware of the assumptions we’ve made about the world and ourselves. Being mindful is realizing that we are more than any apparent or passing limitation.

Mindfulness applies to all aspects of life.

Whatever is going on, whether we are working, running or enjoying a meal, we should be aware of what is going on. Not overburdened with worries or dreams of the future, not full of regret or longing for the past, just experiencing the present moment in all its fullness.

By Matt Clarkson

About Teacher Aimee

Aimee Tay is a consultant, trainer and speaker who specialized in consumer behavioral study. She was the Asia Pacific Regional Business Development Manager for SPSS Inc, the statistical analysis solution company.

Since 1993, being inspired by the Law of Nature, she begins her study in Cosmic Energy, Positive Psychology and New Age Philosophy. Throughout the years, she has learned many different techniques to improve personal ability and personal growth.

Through the energy balancing meditation, she discovered and experienced her personal growth, since then she is actively promoting “Consciousness Awakening and Mind Empowerment”.

About Purity Learning

What we are today comes from our thoughts of yesterday and our present thoughts build our life tomorrow. Our life is the creation of our mind.

If we allow feelings of happiness, strength and success filled our mind, we shall bring happiness, strength and success to our family and friends.

With this objective in mind, Purity Learning is here to share “path to a balance life that leads happiness, strength and success” with others


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Brain Power Development

What kind of brain training could be defined as Brain Power Development?

Brain Power Development is a way of training that develop the whole brain cognitive skills. If you can utilize both of your brain, why would you want only part of your brain to be better? Wouldn’t you want to increase intelligence in your whole brain?

The Brain

The brain has two hemispheres, left and right.

Left hemisphere thinking is sequential, linear, logical, practical, mathematical, and time orientated.

Right hemisphere thinking is non-linear, intuitive, abstract, big-picture focused, creative, and space-oriented.

Most people use one hemisphere more than the other, creating an imbalance.

When both hemispheres of the brain begin to communicate and work in synchronization, it is called "whole brain synchronization".

Whole brain synchronization promotes electrical activity and energy patterns in the brain become more widespread throughout the brain instead of remaining confined to certain areas.

Research has indicated this type of "whole brain synchronization" is present in the brain at times of intense creativity, clarity and inspiration.

"Brain Power Development" is brain training that unleashed the power of both side of the brain.

Every brain needs an exercise. "Brain Power Development" training promotes exercise of the brain.

What is Brain Power Exercise?

Brain Power Exercise refers to movement of human body that improves neural activities. It develops physical coordination, agility and confidence through physical performance.

Physical bodies are part of the learning, and learning is not an isolated "brain" function yet it is associated with the physical body movements.

Every nerve and cell is a network contributing to the learning capability and intelligence, every movement of our bodies improve the development of the nerve cells in the brain.

Brain Power Exercises stimulate brain activities which could improve:

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