Mindfulness: A way to calm our mind, relax our body

Mindfulness gives kids a tool for understanding how their brain works, for having better self-control,

Handwork: A way to understand our ability.

A motor skill is a learned sequence of movements that combine to produce a smooth, efficient action in order to master a particular task.

Concentration through Craft work

Crafting is both fun to make and fun to play, at the same time, it helps the younger one to concentrate.

Teamwork: Learn to share and work together.

Functionality of a good culture family and society comes from teamwork.

Drawing is a way of self-understanding

Drawing for kids is an important time to enhance their mind and artistic skills, it shows the way of thinking pattern of a person.

Work with your hand

How flexible is your hand means how flexible is your brain, as your brain control your hands.

Fun work with clay

Working with clay is fun, because a child has to learn how to press, to work the clay into round, square, tear drop or peanut shape.

Concentration: training needed for all age.

When a child being able to be comfortable with silence, they have the ability to concentrate.

Are you doing too much for your child?

If you’re doing too much for your child, you will eventually feel burned out and put upon. You can determine if you are an over-functioner if you tend to move in quickly with advice, think you know what’s best, not only for yourself but for others, have a low threshold for your child’s pain and don’t allow him to struggle with his own problems. You might have difficulty sharing your own vulnerability and spend more time focusing on others’ goals than your own. The people around you probably think of you as always reliable and together.

You might not see it as a problem until you start to burn out. Understand that over–functioning and under–functioning are a “circular relationship pattern” because these two roles feed off of each other. You may feel over responsible for your child, directing his moods, controlling his decisions and micro–managing his social life. In this way, you unwittingly encourage your child to be passive in life and become an under–functioner. When this happens, he begins to rely on you to do all the things he should be doing for himself. And you think, "He needs me. I can't just let him drown."

Is My Child an “Under–functioner”?


I once worked with a couple who always over–functioned for their child, doing things for him that he could do himself. This son always skated through classes because the parents gets someone to do his homework for him. Everything at home is prepared by the maid even waking up in the morning to school has to be reminded several times by the parents. As such, he did not learn how to rely on his own abilities, blame others if he does not get what he wanted, take the necessary risks, develop the ability to think for himself, fight with the mother and at times he even overacted showing his fist to his mother.

His parents could not tolerate their own anxiety about unhappiness of their son if he does not get what he wanted or the pain of watching him struggle. By over-functioning for him, they inadvertently robbed his of the skills and practice necessary to develop competence and mastery in his life.

The bottom line is that if a parent’s emotional needs are met through their child, essentially they’re tying his shoes for his every step of the way.

If you have a child who has been diagnosed with a learning disability or a behavioral disorder, it gives you even more of a reason to do too much for them. It may even feel as if it’s expected and natural to over–focus on your child. But understand that it’s not really doing them any favors in the long run, because they’re not learning how to do things for themselves. And one day, your child will need to go out into the world and function as an adult. Of course, it's important to understand their disability and help them when appropriate, but try not to let your anxiety compel you to overdo for them and underdo for yourself. When that happens, you run the risk of ending up angry, resentful and burned out.

What do adult under–functioners look like? Under–functioners are skilled in the art of “learned helplessness.” They have quite literally learned to be helpless, because someone was always there to pick up the pieces for them. They often act irresponsibly, aren’t able to handle uncomfortable emotions well, float without goals, become ill a lot, can tend to become addicted to substances, ask for advice when they need to figure things out for themselves and get others to always help them. They will often search out a partner who will take care of their needs and pick up where their parents left off. And keeping a job is hard for under–functioners, because they’re always looking for someone to swoop in and rescue them. For many people who were raised this way, the world is a scary place—and instead of venturing out and making a life for themselves, they choose to stay home with mom and dad indefinitely.

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